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Secret names

Ask the Expert

Question: Why do we keep the name of a baby boy a secret until his bris?

— Dana, Washington, D.C.

Answer: I know not everyone loves delayed gratification, but one of my favorite things in life is watching the crowd react to a name at a bris. I love the builtup anticipation that you can feel as everyone waits for the big moment, and I love hearing the parents talk about how they chose the name.

But waiting for eight whole days to announce a baby’s name can be hard on the parents and the wellwishers. So what gives?

First, we now have the custom of giving the baby a name at the bris. According to Jewish law, the bris has to take place on the eighth day after the boy is born. So that means we give baby boys their names on the eighth day.

But why the secrecy?

I asked (Orthodox) Cantor Philip Sherman, who has been called “the busiest mohel in New York,” why Jews keep baby boy names under wraps until the bris.

“Keeping the name a secret is based on superstition, i.e. not giving the Angel of Death the opportunity to identify the child and kill him before the bris,” he said. “Two practical reasons for not disclosing the name until the bris are one, in case the parents decide on a last-minute change, and two, it helps the parents avoid meddling relatives.” (Read the following in a whiny voice: How come you’re not naming the baby after Uncle Louie?)

This Angel of Death business might sound a bit scary, but it’s nothing more than a bubbe meise (a superstitious belief). It probably stems from high infant mortality rates that were the norm until quite recently. It wasn’t unusual for a mother or a baby to die shortly after a birth, and so all kinds of superstitious practices arose to try to ward off the risk of death.

In the spirit of egalitarianism, some families have the tradition of waiting until the eighth day to announce girls’ names, too. Other families will announce a girl’s name at the Torah service after her birth. Since the Torah is read on Monday, Thursday and Saturday, these families don’t ever have to wait too long.

In any event, there’s no real rule about this. It’s customary to wait before broadcasting your choice to the world, but it’s not actually an obligation, so if you’re itching to tell, don’t worry about it.

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